Preparing For A First Date
How To Survive With Style
So you’re totally overcome with nerves, anticipating meeting someone for a first date. Although it feels like your stomach is going to digest itself, don’t fret, you have a plan to make sure you survive in great style. Here are a few tips to help you through:
Allow Yourself Plenty Of Time To Prepare
The last thing you want is for the doorbell to ring when you’re in the shower or for your best fitting pair of jeans to still be on tumble-dry when you’re due at dinner. Give yourself plenty of time to take care of everything, including having a minute or two to gather your thoughts and confidence.
Begin With A To-Do List
The day before your first date or earlier, create a to-do list. Include everything you need to buy, do and take care of before the big date. As you accomplish the various tasks, cross them off. Keep checking your list to remind yourself of what still needs to be done, well in advance, of the actual meeting with your date.
Keep Taking Deep Breaths
Deep breaths do more than just distract you from your nerves, they reroute chemicals in the brain and restore your respiratory system to normal. Breathe in deeply through your nose and hold it, preferably with your eyes closed and your mind empty; let the breath out through your mouth slowly and repeat. Careful not to go too quickly, lest you pass out!
Talk To Someone Who Amps Your Confidence
If you’re really nervous, talk to somebody who knows how to calm you down. If you’re feeling self-conscious and worried that you’re not good enough or somehow going to mess things up, talk to someone who will tell you how awesome you really are. If there’s nobody available, quickly locate a website or book that effectively talks you away from a dark and self-defeating place into a lighter, more optimistic mood.
Have An Exit Strategy
If you’re meeting a total stranger with whom you have no mutual friends, be as safe as possible. While you hope for the best, you need to be prepared for anything. Meet in a very public place where you both feel comfortable and you both have the freedom to depart politely, if that becomes necessary. Hopefully not, but it’s wise to have an exit strategy, just in case.
Despite the nerves, you know you’re going to be just fine. Not only is your first date not going to be the end of the world, it could very well be the start of something totally amazing!